After having my social media pages flooded with the #MeToo movement I’m feeling inspired to write a blog post about this important topic.
On Sunday afternoon, the actress Alyssa Milano used her Twitter account to encourage women who’d been sexually harassed or assaulted to tweet the words #MeToo.
Suggested by a friend: “If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote Me too. as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.”
The statistics are out there and yet seeing so many of my friends post #MeToo on their Facebook, Instagram and Twitter accounts has stunned me.
Some have shared their personal story, some shared the hashtag #MeToo and others have not posted at all because they have chosen to keep their painful story for themselves. Always remember that survivors don’t owe you their story.
Each one of these women is strong beyond measure and I’m incredibly humbled by their honesty and bravery.
Every day women face decisions regarding their safety.
Just yesterday I got off work late in the city and had to walk to the train station in the dark, sit uncomfortably on a train where a drunk man was staring at me and making disgusting comments and finally get off the train to ride my bicycle home in the dark.
I had asked my boyfriend if I should walk home at midnight or ride my bicycle and he asked me which one I would feel safer doing?
I said I’d rather ride my bicycle because it’s faster.
This is the world we live in. These are the types of decisions women face on a daily basis.
The #MeToo movement has exposed the tremendous scale of sexual abuse and harassment in our society.
This is a severe problem and I think it is healthy to see the problem, but even healthier to see the solution. It’s clear that change needs to occur. It has been clear for a long time.
I believe YOU are the only one who can make a change, because ultimately YOU only have control over your own actions.
If you desire to be apart of change then practice these two thing as much and as often as you can:
Practice loving yoursef and all people, no matter what. Make the choice every day to act from a place of unconditional love. Love more where people find reasons to hate, blame or express anger. Love openly and from a place of peace and joy. Share your happiness with others instead of reacting to their negativity.
Next time you get mad without meaning to, realize that awareness is the biggest step towards the solution. Take a moment and remember to lead from a place of love, openness and peace.
By no means does this mean that acts of sexual assault and harassment should be brushed off and ignored. But it does mean that we should take greater responsibility and find healthy ways to create the change we’re looking for.
Compassion & Forgiveness
Show compassion towards those who have hurt you.
Every human being is imperfect. We cannot live up to false expectations of never making a mistake. To love unconditionally means to acknowledge the fact that everyone will fail.
Forgiveness is freeing especially for the one offering the forgiveness. It can be incredibly hard to forgive someone that has caused pain in our heart. However, holding on to a negative situation and letting it reside in your heart is toxic.
Practicing unconditional love is about being vulnerable. Being vulnerable can bring fear into our hearts. We fear being rejected or not understood. However, when we fully open our hearts and live with openness we allow more love in.
I want there to be more love in this world. More compassion.
That’s why I’ve felt inspired to write this post and replace some of the fear with love.
What do YOU think is the solution? Comment below because I would love to have some feedback and keep this important conversation going. So that together, we can create the change we’d like to see in this world.
With love and courage,